Roz Purcell opens up about pressure and ‘shaming’ she felt to ‘settle down’

Roz Purcell opens up about pressure and shaming she felt to settle down

Roz Purcell opened up about the pressure and “shaming” she felt to “settle down” as she approaches her 30th birthday next month.

However, taking control over her own path, the cookbook author, 29, confessed she is nowhere near ready to get married, buy a house or have kids despite society suggesting she should.

Gearing up to celebrate the milestone age, the former Miss Universe Ireland admitted she had made herself feel fear and pressure to reach certain goals by a certain time in her life.

The Tipperary born beauty explained: “Growing up I always attached milestones to an age. My life and happiness to numbers.

Roz Purcell
“As I approach 30 I realise how 1. I attached success to these events 2. How society affected my idea of age.

“The fear to not have settled down by a certain age, the shame of not owning a home or doing all these things before 30.”

“We all need to start normalising doing things at different times- getting married in your 40s, changing career in your 30s owning a house finally in your 50s or never!”

“Not feeling like you always need to fit into the same pair of jeans from your early 20s.

“Realising not all these things are going to happen in the order you previously thought or may not even happen and that’s ok they don’t define a happy life,” the model shared.

Reflecting on how her attitude has since shifted, she added: “I hadn’t really thought much about turning 30 next month- but everyone’s like ‘how do you feel about it, eh?’”

“Younger me may have seen it as a failure but I’ve had some hell of a ride so far without any of these things happen, maybe they will maybe they won’t but I won’t attach them to a number that’s for sure.”

Roz Purcell

Her admission came alongside an image of her holding a sign listing the age restricting achievements she had set out for herself in the past, including buying her own house, getting married and having kids.

It also included for the body positive influencer to ‘always wear a size 8’ in clothing.

But she said: “Also do not feel ready for any of these.”

She went on to comment: “Life at your own pace is the best life.”

It comes as Roz previously told Irish Mirror she is concerned to have kids due to her worries surrounding climate change.

She said: “I’ve just been like, ‘I’ll do it when I’m ready’. And even if I don’t want to do it that’s cool as well.”

“I don’t even know if I can have kids, do you know what I mean? I never really like to plan ahead.

“I have a concern when it comes to having children. And my concern would be with climate change and the future,” she added.

“I’d have a big deep worry about bringing another human into a future where the next 50 years isn’t looking too good.”

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