“The way our family is set up is God, Tobe, me, kids.”
The Nwigwes are legendary within their own right and we stan everything about them. Everything.
If you’re unfamiliar, Tobe Nwigwe is a Nigerian-American rapper and singer known for his mint minimalism, in collaboration with his wife, Fat. They’ve built a cult following for years but the two gained popularity last year with songs such as, “Try Jesus” and “I Need You To (Breonna Taylor)”.
The duo brings family dynamic to the forefront in all that they do, often incorporating, and feeding off of, each other in their artistry. The entertainment industry has certainly come knocking on their doors, as they have built a powerful brand, their way—and only, their way.
Recently, the two sat down for an episode of OWN’s They Call Me Dad where each of them opened up about the importance of men being a present in a child’s life. It was here where Fat profoundly described their family, and how she is able to balance being a mother and wife despite their booming careers.
“I never questioned if [Tobe] was going to be a good father because he was a good man. Tobe loves on his children hard. He loves them and he plays with them often but most of all, he believes that he is the one that has to lead his children.”
And by lead, she means being the leader of their household. She continues:
“The way our family is set up is God, Tobe, me, and kids. And so, when situations arise, he leads. I support him, I tell him what I think, and we go. I am able to know what I need to do as a woman and as a mother and as a wife, because we have that order. And so that order allows us to have peace, happiness, joy, so I can fully support him, he can fully support me because we know who we are individually in this relationship and as parents.”
Tobe goes on to say Fat loved him even when he was broke and all he had was a vision. “And she love me, despite me.”
Well, the conversation of ‘family order’ dates back to the end of time, where many believe in today’s society, the lines are blurred. Should kids come before everyone? Or should families align in biblical context: God, man, woman, and child?
Regardless of what you believe, no one can deny that the Nwigwes have put in the time, and work, to establish their foundation—from family to music. And whether you believe in their order or not, at the end of the day that’s what it’s all about.
Do you believe in having a family order?
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